Parents please remember: good family education in six words

2022-05-20 0 By

Children grow up inseparable from family, family influence on children is not big.Some kids are brilliant, and some kids aren’t.These are the effects of family education.As parents, of course, we want our children to be that person, so what’s the right way to raise them?There are no naturally successful parents. There are no parents who don’t need to learn. Successful parents are the result of continuous learning and improvement.One excellent mother even said: “Many people think it’s easy for me to say that your child is so excellent that I don’t care, but I actually sleep with one eye open at night!”Good mothers nip it in the foot, while bad mothers are those whose child’s problems are so serious that even the teacher has talked to the child before she realizes there is a problem.In the 21st century, the information society has higher and higher requirements for the quality of people. Training and assessment are required for any post. However, it seems that only raising and educating children do not need training.Everyone needs to learn about parenting before they become a parent, and the earlier and fuller the awareness and knowledge of how to be a parent, the better.Good children are taught I have been in contact with hundreds of excellent parents, and one thing they have in common is that they put a lot of effort into educating their children!Some people may say that there are so many parents who can’t read a single word, but don’t they teach good children?Actually, illiteracy is not won’t teach, these parents are the ace that educates a child likewise.Focus interview once introduced the story of an Jinpeng, a gold medalist in mathematical Olympiad of world middle school students.His family was extremely poor, and he was admitted to a key middle school, but he had no money to go to school. His father told him to let his son work, because he still had no job after he went to college, let alone whether he could go to college.But the mother strongly disagreed and sold the only donkey in the family.The kid was the only one in high school who couldn’t afford to eat vegetables. He was the only one who couldn’t afford soap.So the kid’s on his own, huh?I found that although the mother had not even graduated from primary school, she had let her children know the four calculations thoroughly before primary school.How many college-educated parents can do that?Many parents blame their children’s bad habits on the school, on the teachers, on the children, but not on themselves.In fact, most of our children’s habits — whether good or bad — are consciously or unconsciously cultivated by our parents.In fact, parents teach all the time, but they do not realize that they teach, this is “hidden education”, is much more powerful than “visible education” essential education.Excellent children are the result of high quality education, while problem children are the product of problem families.Most of the children’s problems are not caused by the children themselves, but the reflection of their parents’ problems, parents are often the biggest maker of children’s problems, but also the biggest obstacle for children to correct mistakes and shortcomings.The most urgent need to educate is not the child, but the parents, without the parents can not change the child.There are no children who don’t want to learn well, only children who can’t;There are no bad children, only bad parents.Good grades are to help out of education is the school and parents can not avoid the problem, schools and parents need to adapt together.There are a lot of “idle” teenagers these days, meaning kids who should be in school but don’t want to go to school.94% of them are the result of academic failure. Academic backwardness, weariness, truancy and running away from home have become the four steps of juvenile delinquency.Therefore, to help children adapt to the exam-oriented education has become our parents should do their duty, and the best way to help children reduce the burden is our parents increase the burden, that is, our parents can become the child’s mentor.Of course, good grades are brought out by school teachers, but in today’s fierce education competition, these good grades are more and more soaked in the sweat of parents.Good communication is heard out for children into junior high school, high school parents, there is a common confusion, that is difficult to communicate with children.The conflict between the children entering puberty and the mother entering menopause is more, not only because of the internal psychological turmoil, but also the external pressure of both are very big. The children are facing the pressure of entering school, and the mother is facing the pressure of career, which requires more communication.The best parents do this very well, and their good communication comes from consciously following these three principles: The first step is listening, which is to let the child speak out, and understand the true meaning of the child’s words.The second step is understanding, is to stand in the child’s point of view to think whether it makes sense.The third step is advice, reasonable children are not always able to take the right action, so parents should give advice here.Of these three steps, listening is the hardest for parents to do.What is more important than intelligence is will; what is more important than will is mind; what is more important than mind is a person’s moral character.Unfortunately, nowadays fewer and fewer people are paying attention to character, not more.When it comes to a person’s ambition and ambition, it’s the kind of overseas myth that parents don’t want to hear, because it has nothing to do with current test scores!In fact, these are the most important things in a person’s growth.When we read biographies, we are often struck by how extraordinary the subject was as a child, because this motivation has such a powerful effect on the individual.The most important factors, such as will, mind and morality, are not taught by parents — this “explicit education” can produce results, but by parents’ behavior — that is, “latent education” into children’s flesh and blood.The best way to let children develop a big mind, in addition to parents can do a good example, is to let children read more famous books, read more biographies of celebrities, let children learn to use the eyes of celebrities to see society and their own.Declaration: The copyright of this article belongs to the original author, if there is a source error or infringement of your legitimate rights and interests, you can contact us through email, we will promptly deal with.Email address: jpbl@jp.jiupainews.com